Thursday, December 30, 2010
Monday, December 27, 2010
Sunday, December 12, 2010
I'm not going to lie....I'm surprised that she went up and sat on S*nta's lap. Sophie has been "encouraging" me to go visit S*nta and tell him what she wanted for Christmas:) She really couldn't give us a big ol' smile because she was a little uncomfortable, so when we asked her for her goofy smile this is the smirk she gave us! She is on smart and funny girl! This is going to be the best Christmas! Sophie is sooo excited. She is really in the Christmas spirit...singing songs, moving decorations around the tree...just super excited. It is going to fun, fun, fun.
Monday, November 15, 2010
Later on we headed over to the park to play. It was a beautiful day and the park was packed. Sophie was running around and going down this one slide. An older boy was sitting at the top of the slide and I can see Sophie telling him to go and then sitting down behind him, where she proceeds to try to get him to go with a little push with her feet. Once she gets down the slide I call her over and tell her that she is not allowed to push or "help" someone go down the slide. She runs off to go down the slide again. This time the boys brother, I think his twin, cuts in front of Sophie so he can go down the slide before her.....his mom is yelling that it is time to leave. The little boy shoots down the slide then turns and says...."HA! YOU STUPID CHINESE!!" Yep that is what he yelled at my daughter. I started to get up, but his mother was right there and walloped him in the head and grabbed him by the arm and pulled him out of the park. She knew I was sitting right behind her.....but she might have wacked him even if I wasn't sitting there, who knows. Sophie didn't hear what he said and kept on laughing and playing....thank goodness. But the time is going to come and someone is going to say something hurtful and nasty just because of how she looks or where she is from.
Is it bad for me to teach her to tell people to" kiss her Ch*nese A$$"
Monday, October 18, 2010
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Saturday, September 4, 2010
1. 1 Can Pillsbury "Grand rounds" refrigerated biscuits
2. Strawberry preserves (do not use jelly)
3. 1 egg
Here is what to do:
1. Wash your hands
2. Open and separate biscuits.
3. Working on a floured surface, press the biscuits flat into 3 inch circles, leaving the middle a little thicker then the edges.
4. Put a teaspoon of preserves into the center of each biscuit.
5. Pull the edges up over the filling and squeeze them together to seal. Make sure they're well sealed or the filling will leak out!
6. Roll the biscuits into balls and put them 2 inches apart on a greased baking sheet with the crimped side down.
7. Flatten them down gently with your hand until they're about 1/2 inch thick.
8. Beat the egg with one tablespoon water, just until it is mixed. ( I left this off due to a friend in Soph's class having a egg allergy)
9 Brush the mooncakes with the egg mixture.
10. Bake as directed on the package or until golden brown.
11. Put on racks to cool when done.
12. When cooled toss mooncakes in a gallon ziplock bag with some powdered sugar.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Sadly back to school is quickly approaching. Check out this site for cool back to school stuff! Click on the button and happy shopping!
Saturday, July 24, 2010
Sunday, June 13, 2010
I'll be back when I have something funny or interesting to share:)
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
For Polar Cub and Mama Bear
Sunday, February 14, 2010
On the menu so far:
- Nian Gao. Chinese Sticky Cake. This cake is said to make people advance towards higher positions and prosperity step by step....hey it's a recession we need all the help we can get!
- Chinese Tea Eggs- I can't wait to try these! My friend Liz will be bringing this to dinner!
- Char Siu Bau. Chinese steamed buns with BBQ pork. I bought these at an Asian market but this recipe looks good.
- Pangseet-Indonesian fried wonton. My kids loooove these!
- Bami Goreng-Indonesian noodles-this will be our Long life noodle dish. I am going to use long Chinese egg noodles.
- Chicken in black bean sauce- Yummy and shhhh I can make this in the crockpot:)
- Kerupuk- I grew up eating these at my Oma's house. You use them to scoop up rice and meat. They are yummy! My kids call the "Chinese Chips"
- Scallion pancakes- Did you eat these in China? I love these!
- Beef Randang- A spicy Indonesian beef dish
- Rice and lots of it!
- Oranges and tangerines
Gong Xi Fa Cai!
Saturday, February 13, 2010
To Sophie Birth Parents:
Thank you for choosing life for your daughter and our daughter. The choice you made may have been due to financial challenges of medical costs in China, it may have been due to your fear of what may be in your daughters future, but whatever the reason..... the bottom line is that you made a choice, a choice that she live. For that we will be forever grateful.
***UPDATE ON BABY HOPE***
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Sunday, January 31, 2010
* I like to buy a book and provide a special snack for Sophie's class for Chinese holidays like the Moon Festival and Chinese New Year. Last year her class was small enough that I bought this for the class. This year the class was bigger so I went here and got this, this and this for her class. I got fortune cookies instead of almond cookies because I think there might be a kiddo with a nut allergy in her class ( I know they are not really Chinese...but kids LOVE them!) I also picked up a book for her class library. I hope her teacher and class enjoy the special book and treats!
* It snowed here yesterday to the tune of about 6-8 inches. Not a big deal in most parts of the country...but I will be lucky to get back to school by Wednesday. All three kids have had a blast playing in the snow. Personally I'm ready for spring!
* I went cotillion dress shopping with Hannah today. It is so hard to find any dresses for her that she likes and that fit her. She is so tall and skinny. The kids section is to "kiddish" for her and the juniors section dresses are too big.
* I need a girls weekend....baaaad! I need airline tickets to drop.
* Ben's X-b*x has died. Way too expensive to just replace. Way too much invested in games etc. not to find another one. His birthday is in February. Maybe his grandparents can kick in.
* Sophie is talking up a storm. Her vocabulary has exploded! She is using lots of "big" words and I'll be honest they sure sound funny coming out of her little mouth!
* There is nothing Sophie loves more than staying home with "my mom, my Hannah and my Ben" ( daddy always has to go to work)
Well thats it folks. Nothing exciting or controversial....this week.
Sunday, January 24, 2010
If your motivation for adopting was was related to your faith....for example you were "called" to adopt.....or maybe attended a Stephen Chapman concert or your church called on its congregation to adopt....How are you going to explain that to your child?? "God chose us to be your forever Mommy and Daddy" may lead her to think that God "Took her away from birth mother" which can only lead to why would God do that? How are you going to avoid your child thinking that you rescued her?
Our children from China will not likely ever know their "roots". Maybe someday there maybe some kind of DNA data base for children who have been adopted to maybe be able to find their birth families....maybe.
Having said that I can't imagine knowing the information is out there and being denied access by the government. I get that it's a triad and the birth parents rights also need to be considered....but that should be some way to communicate, maybe between a liaison of some sort. Not all births are a result of an unwanted teenage pregnancy, unfortunately some are a result of violence. I do believe that adoptee's should have the right to seek information,and to have question answered if possible. It is a balance, but having the government say that one persons rights are more important than another's is not right.
Friday, January 22, 2010
- It is Friday and I am excited to go learn how to use my CM software that I bought...umm like 2 years ago!
- Yoli has me rethinking sending Sophie to Chinese School to learn Mandarin. See her comment on my last post.
- I suck at teaching my children to sleep on their own. Ben and Hannah didn't torture me as badly as Sophie has....but they didn't stop waking me up in the middle of the night until they turned 4 years old.
- I am now sleeping on the trundle bed in Sophie's room. She cried for 30 minutes with me 6 inches away from her. I confess that I was exhausted and my reaction was not my proudest parenting moment.
- I really really need her to sleep all night in her own bed. She really really needs to sleep all night in her own bed.
- I ordered a weighted blanket. We are waiting for it to be delivered and are calling it "the magic mermaid sleeping blanket"
- Apparently the biggest thing going on in my life right now is Sophie not sleeping.
- Oh wait....I have a famous ex-boyfriend. No I will not kiss and tell....unless drinks are involved, a fire is burning in the firepit, and everyone listening is sworn to secrecy and laughter:) If you want to know what he looked like when I dated him you can LOOK here.
- I have started back to the gym. I waited for everyone who started on January 1st to give up.
- I bought a wii f1t....I was laughing so hard at sophie playing the soccer game I thought I was going to pee my pants. She is one funny kid!!
- I really want to go visit her but the flights are so dang expensive.
Sunday, January 17, 2010
This is what we do...... We have incorporated the Moon Festival, and Chinese New Year into the many different holidays and traditions that we celebrate since getting married. We attend our local Chinese association events which are usually part of Chinese holiday celebrations. I am hoping to enroll Sophie in Chinese dance classes next year. ( we have decided not to enroll her in Chinese language school. Read this account of an adoptee's experience with Chinese school when she was younger). I am trying to get some recipes that are from Datong to at least make those a part of our holiday dinners. But the bottom line is that when she is with other Chinese kids, who have Chinese parents, and have grown up in Chinese families.... she really won't be any better off if we didn't do much about Chinese culture to begin with. By making the effort we are giving her an opportunity to get to know some easily accessible parts of Chinese culture....and I suppose these are the ones I can write a checks for.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
When talking with some other Moms with girls from China we have had chats about what information they will be able to seek out on their own. G00gle is a powerful tool. You can have the computer in your family room friends, but when she is at a friends house or you are busy she will have access to the internet one way or the other. Here are a few links and images that I found thinking like a 13 year old.
For these links I just put in China Abandoned Girls and only looked at the first page.
An article about the dying rooms
How Chinese Girls Come to be abandoned-A Research Article
Not including the numerous blogs that have posted
Thousands of images that will break your heart
This is just a small sampling of what is out there for our girls to find. I wanted to write this post because I think our adoption community is currently wrapped up in who is the "mommy". Most would agree....Mommy is the one that is going to have to explain abandonment and what that means.
Monday, January 11, 2010
- Families that celebrate Gotcha day are not going to suddenly stop celebrating gotcha day.
- It seems that many of the families that DO NOT celebrate Gotcha day have bio kids.
- A movie will not change your mind about Gotcha day
- A movie can change how you look and evaluate adoption.
- You cannot turn Gotcha day into a birth story.....sorry you just can't do it, her life started long before that day.
- Parenting is not for wimps, fairy godmothers, or ladybugs.
- It is hard to find a good kids book that covers all the bases in an international adoption, such as abandonment/relinquishment, unknowns, birth parents, etc. ( I have a book idea that I am working on with T)
- Saying that you will stop celebrating Gotcha day when your child tells you they don't want to celebrate it anymore puts lots of pressure on your kiddo...you may not think so right now, but when your teenager has to choose between friends and football or Gotcha day dinner, she will choose dinner so she doesn't hurt your feelings....she knows how much it means to you.
- It is important to recognize that adoption is selfish..."I wanted to be a mom", "I wanted a daughter" etc. Not necessarily selfish in a mean and rotten way...but if the sentence starts with "I" friends it is about you....
- I love hearing/seeing all sides of a discussion. I don't agree with all sides, and many of you don't agree with me...which is ok friends. It keeps things interesting and if a blog post can challenge me to be a better parent....it is all good.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
Here is a great post that discusses if we have really told our children that they were adopted. Thanks Malinda!!
Tracy has posted about Gotcha day and about some kids adoption books that miss the mark. If you are looking for a great book that talks about" the night you were born" here is a great book. "On the Night You Were Born"....I love love love this book. There is no Mommy or Daddy in this book it is all about the baby, and the wind, the stars and animals. Love it.
"On the night you were born, the moon smiled with such wonder that the stars peeked in to see you and the night wind whispered,..."
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Fast forward four years and I find myself scared sh*tless that Sophie is going to "remember the day she figured out she was adopted" All the pictures taken with the cameras I sent to China are in a small photo album that Sophie keeps in her book box. We look at it together and talk about her foster father, where she used to live in China and her "friends" in the pictures. We talk about how we came to China and brought her home with us to NC, I have shown her videos of the first moments that we met in China and she has very little interest in sitting and watching. All my friends and family are done being pregnant so the chances of that providing an opportunity to talk about how she grew in her birth mothers tummy are slim. I think that I am doing it right....we don't talk about her adoption a ton, but allow it to come up easily in conversation.
This is the stuff I think about when Sophie wakes me up in the middle of the night.....
Interesting and helpful post
Friday, January 8, 2010
Thanks again...you guys rock!
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
I should add that we have ALWAYS struggled with getting her down for a nap. Usually I throw her in the car and bring her home and put her in bed once she falls asleep. Over break I laid down with her a couple times and noticed that she was holding her breath and making a little noise when she let her breath out....she is holding her breath so she won't fall asleep!!! When I tell her to stop she usually does, but SHE IS HOLDING HER BREATH SO SHE WON"T FALL ASLEEP!! I asked her teacher about this today, and she said that she "makes a noise" when it is time to sleep....she usually stops when the teacher asks her to, then sleeps about 30 minutes.
Friday, January 1, 2010
I have been lazy about getting this post up...I got it up on FB on time but not here so here is a little update.
I have TWO teenagers now! Hannah turned 13 years old on December 27th! In case you don't know Hannah here are a few things about my teenage girl.
* She never takes a bad picture. Seriously she is one photogenic chica.
* She likes being home. I suspect she will go to college right up the road.
* She is just b*tchy enough not to be a doormat, and still be a sweet girl.
* She is smart and works hard for her grades.
* Teachers looooove Hannah.
* She loves dogs...every kind of dog.
* She is tall and skinny.
* She loooooves chocolate.
* She has her Dad wrapped around her little finger.
* She still likes to snuggle.
* She loves pink and green.
* She is a fashionista.
* She is a good girl and makes us proud to be her Mom and Dad!
For Hannah's birthday we decided to make a "pilgrimage" to Carlo's Bakery in Hoboken New Jersey. Hannah and I love to crawl in to my bed and watch the Cake B0ss. I ordered a cake for Hannah's birthday in her favorite colors of course! My Iph*ne said that it would take us 8 hours or so to get there. Apparently Iph0ne does not have an app for the jersey turnpike! TEN hours later we arrived at our hotel! The next day we headed to the bakery only to find a huge line out the door. I am happy to say that the line moved pretty fast. I got Hannah's cake and some cupcakes for some friends back in NC. My Mom bought some yummy "lobster claws" and let me tell you, they were delicious! We don't have any Italian bakery's here where we live....just as well because I do loooove some Italian pastries!! It was a whirlwind of a trip but worth having to sit on the Jersey turnpike. It was a birthday that Hannah will never forget!
Hannah, cousins Lillian and Helen with Buddy the Cake B0ss!
Hannah and Buddy
Hannah with Buddy's sister Grace, cousins Lillian and Helen