We are a smoochin' family. Even big bad Ben still gives me a kiss goodnight. Sophie will happily give you her cheek for you to kiss, but all in all she is pretty stingy when it comes to giving out kisses. Sure sometimes when I would ask for a kiss and she responded with a "no kisses mama" it made me a little sad, but I knew that was just Sophie doing things at her own pace. Sophie is a big hugger ( that was even included in her referral info). Her hugs can squeeze a bad day away in a NY minute! About a month ago Sophie started to give kisses more frequently. It started with her giving Chris and I a kiss in the morning when the 3 of us were snuggled in bed. Lately she has been giving me 3 kisses at a time. One on each cheek then a big smooch on the lips! I still can't ask for kiss and get one, but that is ok.....I'll take a unsolicited kiss any day of the week!
I know my favorite response to attachment is that it is a "process". Something as simple as a toddler giving her mama lots of kisses 17 months after coming home from China...well it just continues to prove that it is a process. My sweet little girl knows her family. We don't struggle with attachment issues. As family we give Soph the space and time that she needs to continue to grow her love for each of us......because she knows that each one of us loves her to the moon and back!